Resentment is he resentment that persists in time. The person who shows resentment towards another is usually classified as spiteful. For instance: “I feel a great resentment towards my father for everything he did to my mother”, “Stay calm, I don’t hold a grudge”, “There is a lot of resentment in people who, for years, have waited for a solution from the leaders and never receive an answer”.
It is possible to associate the resentment with an anger that is maintained as the weather. When experiencing resentment, the subject has not yet forgiven the one who caused the displeasure or irritation. In this way, whenever something appears that makes you think about the situation that caused your anger, you will feel resentment and act accordingly.
The resentment is considered to be an unhealthy feeling for those who feel it inside, as it can lead to hatred, to want to take revenge and to make their whole life revolve around that feeling. Therefore, it is advised that what should be done in this situation is to try to end it. How to do it? Putting into practice a series of useful tips like these:
-Realize that having a grudge only suffers and is causing pain to himself.
-You have to unburden yourself, express that feeling in order to “free yourself” from it. And that’s something you can do by writing it down, telling someone you trust, or even going to a psychologist appointment.
-It is necessary that the person who feels that resentment decides to put an end to it, turning the page, not thinking about the past again and only looking forward.
-It is also important that this individual becomes aware that he has to be “selfish” and think about his well-being, which will lead him to realize that what he feels does not do him good, quite the opposite.
Sometimes resentment disappears in no time. That is the case of a men that he gets angry with a friend because he got a job that he also aspired to. After a few days of anger and resentment, he finally understands that it was not an action taken against him and accepts the situation.
Other times, instead, the resentment stays for many years, even to death. Suppose a child is sexually abused by a relative, who is covered and protected by the rest of the family. With the passage of time, this child grows into an adult full of resentment towards the abuser (who was never punished) and towards his family in general (who did not encourage his punishment). Despite attending therapy and to try to forgive those he judges as responsible for his pain, the individual cannot leave the resentment behind even though the decades go by.
In addition to all the above, we cannot forget the existence of the Spanish film “Rencor”, which was released in 2002 and is directed by Miguel Albadalejo. It is a drama that tells the story of a woman who one day meets the one who was the great love of her life, a man who caused her great pain and on whom she wishes to take revenge. Actress Lolita played the lead and won a Goya Award for that role.