The concept from meddling has its etymological origin in the Latin word intromissus, which can be translated as “inserted”. This is how the act and result of meddling or meddling.
The verb intrude, also referred to as intrude, refers for its part to stand in the middle, place something among various things or interfere. In general, a meddling is seen as a misplaced, uncomfortable, or annoying action.
For instance: “The American president denounced the Russian interference in the last elections”, “The interference of the Executive Power in the Judicial Power is unacceptable since it threatens the life democratic “, “I have always been bothered by your mother’s interference in matters of our partner, but you have never said anything to her”.
Take the case of a national team from soccer, in charge of a young coach. Other most experienced technical director, in a television interview, he takes the attribution of giving him advice regarding which players to summon and what strategies to use, and even criticizes various measures. In this framework, the DT of the selected is annoyed with the meddling, since he is the person in charge of the team and the one who must make all the decisions.
A manmeanwhile, you may be displeased with your brother-in-law (his wife’s brother) because, in his opinion, he usually gets into their relationship. The husband tells his wife that this guy is always telling them how to raise their children, what to invest the money in and what they have to do in their free time: those meddling, in short, they are irritating.
In short, it is clear that intrusion always generates a nuisance in the recipient. The dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy itself defines the verb entremeterse (the pronominal form of intrude) such as the action a person commits when participating in a situation to which he has not been invited. Therefore, we must understand that the interference is negative, that it is not interpreted as help offered disinterestedly, even if this is the intention of the subject.
And here we enter a subjective terrain, because the intention of who performs an action may be opposite to the interpretation made by the receiver, and we cannot say that only one of the parties is right. Let’s look at an example situation below: two people who were in a relationship have decided to separate because the arguments had become too frequent, and they had already begun to hurt the feelings of the other without control; A friend, believing that he can help them, blindly dates them to meet again and talk, but only makes things worse. While the friend wanted them fixed, they probably considered it an intrusion that led to further arguing.
This ambiguity occurs with almost any abstract concept, even the most direct ones, such as help; the particularity of meddling is that it is «born» from the perspective from who receives the action: it is not common for someone to say “I’m going to make things difficult with my meddling”. For this reason it is so important to put yourself in the place of the other not only to try to understand them, but also to anticipate their reaction before offering them something that they have not expressly requested.
Human beings have a lot to learn before we consider ourselves communication experts. We think we have the most complex languages on the planet, but how many people can say they speak at least one? Misunderstandings occur in all social strata, regardless of the degree of academic studies, and this shows that the secret of success in communication is not in language skills, but in communication. empathy. The more we observe others, the less likely we are to interfere.