HostilityFrom Latin hostile, hostility is the hostile quality, which indicates a provocative and contrary attitude, generally for no reason, towards another living being. The concept allows to refer to a hostile action and armed aggression, according to the dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy (RAE).

Hostility, therefore, implies a abusive and aggressive behavior which can be reflected in violence emotional or physical, at the hands of a single person, a small group or a large number of people and be directed, in the same way, to one or more subjects. There is hostility from one person to another, which implies a confrontation between two subjects, but also hostility from one country to another (a situation that can lead to a war).

Children who must endure mistreatment school, adults who suffer abuse from their partners, workers who face workplace harassment and foreigners discriminated against in their new land are some of the most common victims of hostility in different social groups.

The hostile behavior it can take various forms; in some cases, these are subtle attitudes, which can consist of phrases with an ironic tone, mockery or in the same antipathy. For example: “Nestor always asks me about my wife, although he knows very well that we got divorced after she was unfaithful to me”.

On other occasions, however, the hostility is more direct, with verbal acts and expressions that seek to pester or intimidate the person to the point of causing a hurt physical or emotional: “If the only thing you know how to do is say stupid things, better stay quiet”, “A classmate pushed me down the stairs because he found out I’m gay”, “I am not interested in your opinion; you never contributed any smart ideas to this company “.

HostilityPeople shy They are often taken as unpleasant by those who do not know them well and, very often, their attitudes are considered hostile. Analyzing the behavior that generates extreme shyness in an individual, it is discovered that the result of their actions, as well as the impact they cause on their environment, is practically the opposite of what I expected. When someone has serious problems relating to others, the reasons often revolve around a lack of self-esteem or self-esteem, which can be seen as an overvaluation of others.

A conversation with a shy being it usually includes infrequent comments, very short sentences and awkward silences; Similarly, it may happen that you interrupt the meeting unexpectedly and leave your interlocutor with the word in the mouth. It goes without saying that it is not a pleasant experience, but it is important to note that, in the first place, it is not for the author. Someone who considers himself less important, nice or interesting that the rest of the people would never consciously try to do anything that is listed at the beginning of this paragraph; almost to the contrary, I’d give anything to not have to act in front of someone else at all.

By taking into account the sensations that an individual suffering from shyness must go through, it is easy to understand that he never tries to be hostile in dealing with others, but has no control over his actions when he feels observed. It should be noted, however, that each living being perceives reality in a unique and unrepeatable way, based on the innumerable series of past experiences that have marked it, that have sculpted its character. Although it is possible to review specific moments in our history and modify the opinion we have about another person, you cannot erase or eliminate a feeling or a sensation, even if time proves that you were wrong.