The idea of codependency is not part of the dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy (RAE). The concept, however, is often used in the field of psychology.
There is talk of codependency to refer to Psychological trastorn characterized by a excessive and inappropriate concern for the situation of other individuals. The person, in this way, puts aside their inconveniences and their problems to focus on resolving someone else’s conflict.
Codependency can be forged with a partner, a friend, or any member of the family. Even this condition can develop with respect to a cause that attracts all the interest and restlessness.
The codependent adopts a messianic role and seeks to save one who suffers a difficulty. In fact, it is common for them to seek to forge a bond with those who are going through a bad time in order to go to their rescue.
According to psychologists, with codependency, the subject wants his presence to become indispensable. When the other does not react in the desired way, the codependent experiences great frustration that can lead to depression or to adopt violent attitudes, for instance.
It can be said, in short, that codependency affects the man or the woman who dedicates his effort and time to solve the complications of others, neglecting his own situation. The codependent, in this context, has a tendency to relate to those who suffer the most setbacks since he tries to generate the fact of positioning himself as a savior, even at the cost of ignoring his personal vicissitudes.
To get to this point it is necessary that the subject has lived a series of experiences that have marked him very deeply. Regarding the type of experiences, they depend on each individual, although it is possible to generalize that it is a lack of attention on the part of those who were responsible for protecting him throughout his childhood, something that leads him to try to repair that damage by doing exactly the opposite with another person: protecting them too much, even if they don’t ask.
As mentioned in a previous paragraph, the lack of gratitude on the part of the person who receives your help or the differences in the results with respect to what you have planned from the beginning can generate a great frustration and lead him to act in various ways, even contrary to his original intentions. The complexity of a relationship in which codependency occurs is potentially considerable, especially when it comes to the first relationship in the life of someone who becomes obsessed with helping the other.
It is very difficult to anticipate his reactions and actions, particularly if he reaches that point where he becomes violent against his supposed recipient of help. The subject can experience an apparently impossible void to fill if he sees that the other person does not come out of his well, because in it he had deposited all his hopes to save himself, to live through her what he could not in his past, and this is a double failure for him.
All this shows us that individuals who practice codependency do not have bad intentions but cannot think or act with a clear mind. For this reason and also for the safety of those who may become a victim of their aggressions, it is recommended to go to a professional of the Health mental as soon as we detect certain obsessive attitudes on the part of someone who presents himself as our savior. The clearest signs are a spontaneous initiative on his part to help us even before we ask him and an insistence that he does not take no for an answer.